Considering Feelings.

How does someone consider others' feelings as well as their own?

I mean, in any situation there are always two stories---whether someone else was there to witness the situation or not, but for the sake of analyzing, let's look at it from the point of two people.

For example, in a modern day situation, let's say there are two people...male and female. The female is attracted to the male in all aspects, but he does not share the same affection towards her. They still mess around because he IS attracted to her in that aspect, but wants nothing else from her but that; her body. He only hits her up when convenient for him; during the wee hours of the night (of course). She knows what he wants, and it's not to talk, but to say his famous words 'I want to see you.' And in wanting to SEE her, he means LITERALLY, if you catch my drift. What does she do? Although doubtful, she agrees because she wants to see him also, but not for the same reasons...well, not for the most part. So, he picks her up and takes her to his place. On the drive there, of course they talk, but it's small...nothing personal. They get to the house and they take it from there.

Obviously, in this situation you can see that he was not considering her feelings equally to his. He thought with his little friend and not his heart and mind.

Her in the other hand, she considered his feelings and desires, but not in the way that would answer my question. The only reason she agreed to go is because she really likes him, and the only way she will see him is if she trades her body for time. She knows he wants it too so she is giving him what he wants, but he does not want her for anything else but that, and she won't give him that because she still contacts him more than he would like.

So how could they both consider each others' feeling as well as their own to make it a win-win situation for the both of them?

This is a messy situation.

If she stops calling him and disagrees to 'seeing him,' then he will find someone else who will give him what he wants. He's not the chasing type of guy, he wants it to fall on his lap, literally. So, does she win? Well, she already lost a piece of her dignity by giving herself up to someone who doesn't value the gift, BUT she can learn from it and move on and hopefully find a guy who ACTUALLY wants to see her.

Does he win? Yes he did because he got what he wanted, but KARMA IS A B**CH!

I know, I know, what am I getting at? I'm just saying, it's hard to find that BALANCE between your needs and the needs of others, when coincided.

Another example, say that a girl is not really feeling a guy as much as he is feeling her and she knows he is a great guy and values his care for her, but she can not settle for only that. Does she kick him to the curve? No, she still remains friends with him BUT she must remember NOT to lead him on. BE CONCISE WITH WHAT YOU WANT AND REMEMBER, IF THERE ARE OTHERS INVOLVED, MAKE SURE THEY KNOW WHAT'S UP BEFORE IT GETS TO MESSY TO CLEAN UP.

But you know what, sometimes everyone does not agree with your wants and needs. THOSE ARE THE PEOPLE YOU CUT OUT! Say that the girl tells the guy that she knows he's a great guy, but she doesn't share the same feelings for him as he does for her. Some guys might respect you for that and agree to remain friends and some might not, KICK THEM TO THE CURVE; you were real with them. You DID consider their feelings because instead of playing them, you told them from the jump how you feel, it's their decision on how they react to it.

So, my answer to my question is YES YOU CAN consider others' feelings as well as your own, BUT it depends on the situation...sometimes you have no choice but to put yourself first...those are the F-U situations. We'll save some of those for next time. ;)

Until next time, remember November 4th is two days away, if you're eligible to VOTE, then please do so! I'm not going to say who to vote for, I just want you to vote!! I can not stress it enough, PRACTICE YOUR VOTE!!!


From my World to Yours,
-KeilaL<3ve.